Written by past STUK Renaissance Woman: Adia Faun Imara

I hold no ill will towards those who are deemed “legally blind” or diagnosed with less than 20/20. Many of us need assistance time to time that goes beyond the scope of squinting or getting closer to print for clarity. The problem occurs when our view, our lens of the world is altered in someway – beyond reading script. Sometimes our experiences have a hand in molding our perception. Perception shapes feelings. Feelings sway action.

Yesterday, I referred to looking at romantic relationships objectively by “removing the rose-colored glasses.” You may have heard of this term before but refused to believe that this affliction could ever hit home. I realized that a lot of us are SO deeply immersed in feelings for another, that we are wearing rose-colored contact lenses. When a pal has quietly dove into their own personal love story, there is little friends can do to swoop them out. But, when the blind one in question is you, what will it take to snap back to reality? Undistorted and impartial 20/20. Keep yourself in check by remaining honest and objective. So often, we immerse ourselves fully into the situation to the point that the only perception we have is completely subjective, and void of rationality. Just think how many times have you sat back and let your love interest disrespect you because you waived their bad behavior in efforts to “see where it goes.” We hear of people committing heinous acts because they were “blinded by rage” or staying in abusive relationships because “love is blind.” It’s easy to spot this impaired type of decision making after something eventful, but what about the seemingly meager occurrences?

Although “rose-colored glasses” are popular, is it possible that we own other colors as well? Blue? Or green? Or even red? Ever did something out of greed, anger or jealousy? Is it possible that we have faulty-wired mindsets masquerading as normal functioning cognition? Were there occasions where you passed up on the company of friends for a solemn self-pitying evening? A night alone isn’t exactly an indication of depression. But when overwhelming self-consciousness and low self-worth plague you to the point of not wanting to participate in life, there is a problem. Not to delve into the clinical studies of depression, but an overall “blue” lens of circumstances can be detrimental to growth. Being able to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and face the day can be daunting. However, surrendering to a permanent state of sadness is more bleak than putting in the effort to change.

It takes a lot to correct your vision. Especially when the veil has become a permanent element of the anatomy. Courage, strength and bravery are required to overcome personal fears and the damaging influence of others.

Break the ever looming decent of darkness over your eyes by living, and enjoying life, but constantly checking in with yourself. Take a second look at the situation – while you still can.